The Honest Birth Company

The first few weeks after giving birth can be a bit of a whirlwind for any new parents. Emotions are running high and hormones are going crazy. It can be hard to define if what you’re feeling is normal, or if it is something to be concerned about such as Post Natal Depression. In this article I will cover the different feelings of the 4th trimester and when to call the doctor. 

Baby Pinks

You may have heard of the baby blues but what are the baby pinks? The baby pinks are the feelings of joy and love that you feel in the first 3 days of your baby being born.  You may feel like you do not want to sleep because you are worried to miss out of any single moment of your baby’s life. This is all very normal and not to be a cause of concern. Some mothers though, do not feel that instant rush of love and joy, some feel like they have just been landed with a huge responsibility and that life has become boring. This is all very normal too and it can take a few days, weeks or even up to a year to feel like the bond and connection is there. If this is what you are experiencing please do not worry, give yourself time to ease into this new role as a mother. 

Baby Blues

Most of you would have heard of the baby blues. The baby blues occur on day 3 or 4 after your baby is born. It is because of the sudden drop in Oestrogen and Progesterone and the increase in prolactin which is the hormone used to mature our milk. Also more commonly known as “when our milk comes in”. Lots of mood changes occur within this time and it might leave us feeling sad, then overjoyed again and back too feeling sad in a matter of moments. Some might also experience feeling very cranky, or want to cry over the pettiest of issues. These mood changes due to the hormone changes last 1 – 2 days in most women. In some cases it can go on up to 10 days. It is important in this time that family and friends support you and ride these emotions with you. Emotional and psychical support is everything at this time. 

Overall the first few weeks are a blur and things should start to balance out again within 6 – 8 weeks. If you’re breastfeeding it may take a bit longer especially if you have experienced issues with getting your baby to latch and gain weight etc. Most babies initially will not want to sleep in their crib or Moses basket and only sleep on you. Follow this safe co sleeping information to obtain safe sleeping habits. Sleep is essential for both you and your baby and sometimes you just have to follow mother nature in her wishes. 

So when then should we call the doctor if we suspect we have Post Natal Depression? 

Post Natal Depression usually occurs within the first 6 months of childbirth. The symptoms mimic those of ordinary depression such as;

  • Feeling emptiness or hopelessness
  • exhausted 
  • Loneliness even when you have people around
  • Angry 
  • A lack of interest in activities that you would usually enjoy
  • Feeling lost in your thoughts
  • A negative thought pattern
  • Feeling the world is unsafe for you and your baby.

If you think that you or a loved one may be experiencing post natal depression then please do not hesitate to contact your doctor or health care provider. The sooner this is diagnosed the sooner you can be supported into recovery. You don’t need to suffer on your own and it is important to have emotional and psychical support throughout your recovery. 

If you have any questions please feel free to reach out to me.

For information on my antenatal and postanatal courses/support please take a look at my courses page.